I’ve watched many video’s on Teenage pregnancy whether it be home video’s or reality shows. In most of the video’s I see girls from ages 13-17 who are pregnant and usually without the father of their child. We live in a society today where this has become the norm. Young girls who are having sex and becoming pregnant.
One of the most ridiculous stories I saw recently is a young girl who claims that she’s a virgin and that she’s going to give birth to Jesus. Her mother backs up this story because, her mother claims that God came to her in a dream and told her that her daughter was in fact a virgin and that Jesus was going to come back to earth through her daughter. I know many of you will laugh and so did I. I think this has gone on long enough and her mother will find out the real truth when this baby is born.
Aside from that, I often read comments below these video’s calling these young girls “whores”. This makes no sense to me as it doesn’t make any difference whether your 13 or 30, all women get pregnant by a man and you don’t have to sleep around in order to get pregnant. It shouldn’t be automatically assumed that these girls have slept around and that’s what made them pregnant. The stigma that comes with teen pregnancy is horrible and it does nothing to prevent young mothers from getting pregnant.
There have been many outrages over schools handing out birth control, why? If your child feels uncomfortable talking to you, wouldn’t you want her to have protection anonymously? Parents say they don’t want this happening because, it will give their teen the right to have sex. WRONG, it will give your teen the right to have safe sex. Teens are going to have sex, it doesn’t matter if birth control is available or not and the parents who don’t support this idea, who try to scare their teens into not having sex, will be the one’s who end up with a pregnant daughter or their son will get someone pregnant and maybe pass on an STD as well. We can’t be ignorant as parents and assume that our child will never have sex at their age. Teenagers are impulsive as it is and when they get those sexual feelings, chances are they are going to act on them.
I’m not saying that I approve of teens having sex, getting pregnant or any other form of emotional bonds. What I am saying is that we need to concern ourselves with safe sex and a validation that we understand what that teen is feeling and that we were once teens ourself.
There should be a place that teens can go and talk with girls who are already teen moms or guys who are teen dad’s and get a support system where the people around them are not bias. Parents cannot be that rock for those kids as parents are all about NO NO NO and it doesn’t work obviously. Then there are times where the teen must learn from their own mistakes. Regardless of what hopes and dreams you have for your child, your child will have to be the one to decide what future they have and I know you’re saying “This woman is crazy”. No, what I’m saying is that teens will be teens and there’s no amount of guilting, parenting, grounding or anything else you can do as all people express free will and teenagers do this more than adults. I would not want my son getting anyone pregnant but, I’m also not going to be blind to the fact that he probably will get someone pregnant.
The best thing we can do as parents is get ready for any questions that our teen may have and be ready to not overreact when they tell you that they want to have sex or that they have been having sex. Making threats to your child or their partner will only push them away more.
I want all of you to know that I’m not writing this blog due to the domestic abuse that has occurred within the NFL. Now with that being said, let’s proceed.
Domestic violence can often occur with someone that you trust and often times it’s due to that person’s inability to control their emotions. It can however, be caused by someone who has a mental illness such as Paranoia which can cause the person to believe that their partner is doing things intentionally to make them angry. The other side of it can also be the person’s inability to take personal responsibility for their own actions. Often times the abuser will say “If you hadn’t of said that, this wouldn’t be happening” or whatever the case is.
I want you to know a few things. In the first place, I’m a survivor of domestic violence. I won’t bore you with the details but, I will tell you that the person who abused me did so for as long as he could get away it and first chose isolation to keep me from telling anyone and then proceeded with the endless cycle of breaking my spirit to make me submissive. You see these are all common steps of the abuser and most abusers are afraid for anyone to discover what they are doing.
The most difficult thing for women to do is to leave their abuser. It’s common that people will criticize and say “Why didn’t you leave sooner” well, as I stated before Isolation is the abusers biggest advantage. There are extreme cases where the abuser will literally force you to stay inside the house. The person may block the doors/windows, they may tie you up or even lock you in a closet. There’s no way to escape most of the time unless someone gets worried about you and comes to your rescue.
The biggest thing that you need to know, if you do manage to get away from your abuser know that it will not stop. Almost always, the abuser is determined to have you back under their control and that is when stalking begins. You will often find that person showing up where you happen to be, usually they have either followed you or they have someone giving them information about where you’re going or who you will be with. Always take someone you trust with you every place that you go. I know that this may be annoying or even inconvenient but, it will also likely save your life. If you have no one to go with you, put it off for another time or carry discreet pepper spray or a tazer.
There are various resources that can help you escape from this abusive endless cycle but, what you need to know for sure is that you will require counseling when you leave the abusive relationship and things will never be the same again. That’s bad news you say, yes, the good news is though, you won’t be being beaten every day any more. It’s impossible to say whether or not the person will follow you everywhere you go but what they will do is, they will do everything they can to convince you to either stay or return back with them. They may even say “I went to therapy” or “I’m on medication now”. I do believe that people can change, I don’t however believe that they can change so quickly and by you going back to them, you’re rekindling that excitement they had of controlling and abusing you. It’s never a good idea to return based on what they claim, or even return at all.
Public breastfeeding has now become widespread and now a trend has been started where women are taking pictures of them breastfeeding and posting them all over social media. Although I have no problem with breastfeeding in general, I also don’t want to see it on my news feed. I think that people who do this are trying to seek any type of attention they can get and honestly, they are exploiting their children. Allow me to explain.
When I first started seeing these pictures my initial thought was “What in the world are they doing?!” I couldn’t believe that someone would post a picture of their child feeding from their breast on social media and actually try to defend it by saying things like “It’s natural”, “All women should do this” and of course my first reaction was to say “What’s next?! Showing your baby’s poopy diaper, that’s natural and that’s what happens when the milk digests”. Now some of you may feel that I’m wrong here and I’m sure you will because I have been called an idiot and ignorant on social media.
I feel that this is exploiting children because, the women on there who are trying to prove a point do not take into consideration that pictures are on the internet forever and when that child grows up enough to be on social media, the last thing they want to see is them sucking milk from their mom’s boob. It’s embarrassing just like taking pictures of your kid using the potty for the first time or giving them a bath.
I look at it this way, I don’t want my child to see your boob flopped out any more than I want a man to whip out his penis and pee in public. That’s natural but, I don’t want to see it. There are options to not disrespect other people’s children in public and they won’t look away because they are kids and kids notice everything. When people have suggested that these women use covers or feed their kids breast milk in bottles they fire back and say “My child won’t take a bottle” or the famous one “Why don’t you put a cover over your head while you eat” first off, that doesn’t make any sense, a child should not ever be solely dependent on it’s mother’s nipple alone and I don’t suck on anyone’s boob when I eat, I eat with a spoon and a fork. I believe that both of those common reactions are excuses to “Prove a point”.
If a man cannot “be natural” and pull out his penis and pee in public, a woman should not be allowed to expose herself and flop out her boob. People are arrested for peeing in public, having sex in public or exposing their self in any way in public and I believe that flopping your boob out is also exposing yourself in public and should be punishable by law. There’s no excuse why you need to do that. It’s not natural to do that in public and it will not be accepted. I will not allow my child to see a woman’s breast at his young age. I’m not against breast feeding but, there are other ways to do it and regardless of what the mother says, I think that it needs to be enforced.
Recently, there was a story on a woman who went to a public place called Discovery Place in Charlotte, NC and she was told that she would have to go to the bathroom to breast feed her child. She became angry and went to the news with it and of course attention seeking women praised her for standing up for herself. However, she has no right to take her baby to a public kids play place and flop her boob out in front of all those children and I do feel like the company had a right to say what they said. Though she tried using the excuse that she paid for entry and that they don’t force patrons to eat in the bathroom, it’s an invalid argument. The fact is, children are extremely curious and I don’t want them staring at another woman’s boobs. Children are imitators and they do sometimes try things like that on other children when they see an adult having it done by a baby. That is not natural and I won’t stand for it.
Final Conclusion: If you refuse to cover up and you refuse to feed your child from a bottle, stay at home. I will not have to explain to my child why you have your boob exposed and I will not leave a place that I paid for because you want to cause a mess of drama.