I decided to write a blog about Social Media because, there are a few things that are important when deciding whether or not social media is for you.
#1 – Social Media can be helpful if you’re only using for it is games and to talk with friends/family.
#2 – Social Media isn’t for anyone who can’t handle conflict. Know that every single comment you make on any page concerning Facebook, you will be ridiculed for it regardless of your intentions.
#3 – Social Media contains every person you can imagine and that includes all of the bad people.
So today I’m going to focus on point #2. When it comes down to using Facebook and liking pages, you have to be aware that there are going to be various people commenting. In particular, when you’re looking at news Facebook pages, you’re going to see various stories which are upsetting to people in different ways. There are several different types of scenarios that will happen regardless of the subject of the news story.
#1 If it’s a “racially motivated” crime, you’ll never hear the end of it. You’ll always find that if it’s blacks who had a crime committed against them, they’ll load the comments and be ready to fire at the first person who says anything other than “That’s sad to hear”. You’ll be attacked so fast for making any comments that can possibly be skewed as racist and you’ll definitely hear “You’re part of the problem”. They are already waiting for any white to come along so they can vent that anger and race card so be prepared.
#2 Any crime against children. Now normally this would be loaded with people who believe the molester should be killed and that’s to be expected but, you’ll also find a lot of Atheists in there too who are loaded and ready to bash Christian’s for everything they are worth. Any type of disaster that involves the death of someone, be prepared to have some Atheist troll ready to attack you and God. If you’re not Christian, this won’t bother you.
#3 Like with all news stories, you’re going to hear similar stories. In this case, if you’re tired of hearing someone killed, raped or robbed someone, you probably should avoid liking pages with news stories. As far as other types of pages go like for instance movies, know that once you hit the like button, you’ll automatically have your news feed filled with either old scenes from that movie through pictures or loaded with really old comments. It can become obnoxious if you’re only wanting to say that you have seen the movie.
Social Media can be fun, frustrating, depressing and it can also be a nightmare. There’s nothing more dramatic than talking to people on Facebook. I primarily talk about Facebook and not other sites like Twitter because they aren’t loaded with trolls like Facebook is. You’re going to find that there are so many people out there who use Facebook as a way to bully others, to vent their frustrations against a certain race or a religious person and that’s all they will ever do. If you’re not careful, they will actually follow you all around Facebook relentlessly and comment on everything you comment on. It becomes like a game for them to torture you. If you still think Facebook or other social media is for you, just use caution and known that you can deactivate and reactivate your account at any time and make sure that you block anyone who you notice is harassing you or following you around.
If you have a general intolerance of society or people or you know someone who has this problem, please read this blog to find out more about it, straight from someone who has the problem.
Over the years I’ve lost a lot of people that meant everything to me. People who died and it took a toll on me. I started growing an intolerance to people as I started losing people. The people who meant everything to me, were the people that I could look up to in order to have a good goal in mind of what I wanted to be like. Not that I need to copy someone else but, when you have positive people in your life, you tend to want to be somewhat like them. When those people started dying off, I felt like I didn’t have anyone that I could model their behavior and therefore, I gained an intolerance to people.
My views of people are many and usually negative. I have an intolerance to people who behave badly, scream in public, ignore their kids who are destroying stuff or screaming, fighting among couples, an annoying husband who yells at his wife to come on 20 times in 10 seconds, people who scream at strangers on the road or in cars, who don’t listen, who always do the opposite of what you say, those who play the victim all of the time, those who choose to be “clueless or stupid” when they really are just lazy and oh I could go on and on.
As I’m getting older and the people I cared most about have almost all died off, I find myself heading in a direction that I don’t necessarily like but, I’m also indifferent to what people think about me too. For the simple fact that I don’t do any of the things that I hate from others, I somehow expect people to just get it together and stop acting like complete assholes! I’m sorry for the language but, if I’m passionate enough to write about it then you know it really bothers me.
I do not have an intolerance to the elderly, small children or the mentally/physically handicapped. They all have reasons for their behavior and it usually cannot be controlled and therefore, it would be unfair of me to be impatient with them.
I often wonder why people act the way they do. Do they not realize what an obnoxious person they are being? Can they not control their behaviors and their respect for people around them? I almost always avoid society and being in public. When I do go out, I find myself more stressed out and annoyed even after completely minimizing my time out. When I get of public, I feel a sense of relief and for the same reason, I don’t drive. I cannot stand people on the road, they are inconsiderate and dangerous and so if I could avoid being on the road at all, I would!
So this blog is based around my “at minimum” thoughts which basically means, these are my generalized thoughts and feelings and this blog isn’t a complete explanation of what I go through. However, I hope that it’s of some value to you and that you can somewhat understand my point of view. Thank you!!
The title may have you wondering. It actually comes from the Grumpy Cat meme who is dressed as Darth Vader and he says “Luke, I don’t care” instead of the “Luke, I am your father”. Now that, that’s out of the way, let’s get to the blog.
I have become seriously annoyed with people. I’m not talking about my followers, I think you guys are fantastic. I’m just venting at this point about society and people in general. I look around and I see everything for exactly what it is. If shit is going down all around the world, I’ll be the first to point it out. Now, I know what you’re thinking and I’ll tell you how to stop thinking it – read my blog “I am a realist”. Moving on, I watch the world around me crumbling. I see poverty, bullying, alienation, abuse, hate, racism rants, death and wars.
Meanwhile, 3rd world countries are being destroyed, the people are starving, they are being killed and kidnapped and many countries women still have no rights. All of this happening while we as American’s are complaining about immigration, flags, weight, race, kids being “brats” and religion. There’s entirely too much ignorance going on in this country and I’m burned out! So I always get the “Well, why don’t you find a new country to call home” and my response is “Why don’t you just get your shit together, so that we can all live happy”. Why does anyone have to move? Why can’t people just be a productive member of society and stop being whiny, obnoxious brats?
What have we as a country become? I’ll tell you. We have become a self-righteous, overbearing, uncaring, bitter society who will be our own demise. Stop bitching about immigrants, they were here hundreds of years before “Christopher Columbus discovered America” The truth is the Native American’s and the Mexican’s lived, worked and built the United States so stop being so self-righteous! Stop telling people to speak English. English was brought from Europe with the white’s who invaded the U.S. and kicked the real citizens out!
Stop fighting over flags and calling everything racist. The Confederate Flag has been around for a very long time and no one started complaining until now. The American flag was flown and used under slavery for 10 times longer than the Confederate flag. Those who fought in the Civil War deserve to have their graves undisturbed and that includes their flags atop their headstones and that includes the 100,000 plus black soldiers. This deal of “Everything is racist” is not only ignorant but, it’s also obnoxious. Black people don’t rule the world, White people don’t rule the world. Let it GO! Your slavery bit has reached the end.
Stop fighting over whether kids aren’t being controlled by their parents. You don’t know them and you don’t know their situation.
Stop fighting people who believe in God. Leave them alone, let them be and don’t worry about what they believe! If you don’t want your kids knowing about God and are worried they might be exposed to it in school, keep them at home! No one is bothering your rights, no one cares that you’re obsessed with “In God We Trust” being on our money, if you hate it don’t look at it! Stop bothering people, it’s insanity!
I just can’t understand this. I look all around and I see all of these stupid arguments and battles over nothing! It doesn’t affect you and at some point this has to stop! The only reason I’m even writing this blog is because it’s not only affecting my life, it’s affecting my mental health. Constant migraines and stress from reading and hearing all of this non sense, listening to people in public and hearing my obnoxious neighbors. I know I’m not the only one who sick of hearing all of this bullshit going on every single day. At some point, we as a society have to stop coping out and take full responsibility for us and us only! I mean that as YOU and YOUR KIDS and that’s it!
So many people sleep at night and they wake up like toast popping out of toasters. I’m not a fan of mornings or morning people so this doesn’t work the same way for me.
I have had Chronic Insomnia for as long as I can remember and I have always found it hard to fall asleep with or without sleep medicine at night. For me, being awake at night while everyone else in my house is sleeping, it gives me a chance to either blog or catch up on all of that work I couldn’t finish during the day. After all, it’s easier to clean up everything when no one is going behind you making a mess.
I honestly don’t see a big problem with insomnia but I, have also become used to being awake at night and it’s what works for me. I have been told that if I will go to bed early, I will feel great early in the morning. That was not true at all. I felt like crap the next morning even after, sleeping the recommended amount. As a matter of fact, even in the mornings, energy drinks, coffee and soda do not work for me to make me wake up and stay awake. So there it is, I function great at night and horribly during the day. I have never understood morning people and I probably never will.
I had a friend who was the most happy morning person you would ever know. She was wide open at 5:00 am and was able to sustain that energy level the entire day until at least 10 pm. I hated being around her in the morning because, I simply could not be awake much less talking that early (if I had slept). I’m sure you all know that super hyper morning person.
Chronic insomnia is something that people who don’t have it, don’t understand. You can tell they have no clue by the way they talk to you and talk about you. Suddenly, you’re this irresponsible person who’s immature and lazy. They are the kind of people who start making suggestions about taking substances like Melatonin. Why? So that your body can quickly adapt to it and not be able to sleep without it? NO THANKS! Well, I’ve been up the entire night now and I wrote this blog 9 months ago and forgot to publish it, must be all that sleep I’m missing lol. Thanks for reading!
In this blog I’m going to discuss bad associates and people who burn bridges, so that all of you can know what to look for.
There are many different types of friends in this world, let’s look at a few:
Friends for a season – These are the friends that are very temporary and only have one mission and that’s to feel better about themselves or to make you feel better
Friends for life – These are the friends who would fight the devil himself to protect you, they will only make judgments about your life that will help you and will support you no matter what
Fake friends – These are the one’s who have an agenda, who know they will need your help in some way or they want your spouse and think making friends with you is the easiest way.
Bridge Burners – These are the kind that are sheep in wolf’s clothing, they are out to make your life as miserable as possible for their own purpose.
I’m going to focus this blog on Bridge Burners because, I recently with through this with someone. I had a so called friend who was focused on “helping me” to get on my feet and had the agenda of getting me to sign up for her business. Now, that was all great for the first I don’t know 3 weeks. I kept my distance for the most part and let it play out. In the beginning I felt happy, later on I realized that this was no friendship and shortly thereafter, the true colors were shown. A bridge burner is someone who appears helpless or to need your help and basically fish for information and then burn their bridges with you. They will often turn on you at the drop of a hat, become cocky or rude and then flaunt all of their new learned information. They often take on the appearance of someone who’s well maintained and in somewhat control.
People who burn their bridges, often do not realize the impact or consequences of doing so and tend to repeat such action with every new person they meet. It’s almost like an endless cycle that will not stop until that person realizes that what they are doing, isn’t the answer. After so long, the person will understand that they have lost something that could have been potentially life changing for them. There are people like myself who refuses to follow up with someone that I’m done with. Other will people give many chances and though I believe in second chances, that has conditions. In my case, the person I’m referring to decided this was a funny matter and straight up said that they will say whatever they want to. That’s when you can tell that the person is enjoying being in control of the situation. The difference is, many people like myself, enjoy knowing that person not only isn’t in control but, that their time of fun and happiness will come to an end.
Now, there’s several things you must watch out for so that you can identify a bridge burner almost immediately.
They seem overly friendly, despite not knowing you
They have an agenda that’s likely known to you or appears to you
They have bipolar mimicking behaviors or thoughts
They seem to be entertained by your being in a bad situation or having less than they do
They constantly comment on what they do for you.
They list off “problems” that they have and look to you to repair it.
They often don’t have time for you or are rude when they finally do come around.
The above describes in detail the different ways to know if someone is going to be a bad associate or a bridge burner within the first month or so of associating with them. You must be extremely cautious around someone who starts to show the signs and make sure that you haven’t or don’t tell them much of anything about yourself, that you know is bad to get out. A bad associate or bridge burner will make sure they spread rumors about you or tell everything they know. They will become manipulative and hateful. For example, in my case the person was being unprofessional, rude, mocking, vengeful and had periods of bipolar moments and also making “joking” threats. Such as “I would love to slap you right now”. It’s the kind of person you cannot be exposed to for long periods. That usually is a clear indication that not only will they not be supportive of you but, they may turn into someone who becomes a legal problem to you and your family as well. The important thing is that you rid yourself of toxic people as quickly as possible!
Have you ever wanted to go back in time? Ever wanted to see a moment in history take place? See your own birth? Go to a time you can’t remember, to see which of you parents were telling the truth about the event? Just experience a certain time period? That’s what this blog is all about.
You see I want to do all of those things. I’ve been stuck in wanting to time travel so badly and most of that is because well, I hate the world we currently live in and I wanted to see a time when things were a little more simple, where women were modestly dressed. To see no Miley Cyrus and more family values, to see respectful men and women interacting. I would also love to be their for my own birth and see the look on my parents face’s when they laid eyes on me for the first time, to see what they thought of me and what they talked about.
All of these things seem so interesting to me and for years now I can’t get my mind off of it. I spend sometimes hours watching commercials from the 40’s and 50’s on YouTube. I’m always researching historical events and asking people who lived during certain time periods what it was like but, there’s nothing like experiencing that for yourself, in person. I dream of what I would do if I went back in time. Would people notice me and start panicking? Would I be able to get in a time machine that allowed me to see and hear them but, I went unnoticed and unheard? Wouldn’t that be even better if they couldn’t hear or see you and you could just enjoy the experience without all of the screaming and running away? lol.
I’ve asked around and done some google searches, it seems like I’m not the only one. As a matter of fact, there was a short series in the UK called Time Warp Wives and it’s not a made up show, it’s an actual video of women who live their entire lives in different time periods. One of those women was determined to be a 50’s housewife and her husband went right along with it. They used ancient appliances (that were modern at the time) that were in good working condition, they bought their 50’s outfits online and at consignment shops/estate sales, they had an old telephone and her husband built all of the custom made furniture based on photographs in 1950’s catalogs, the woman even cooked everything from scratch and served her husband, she refused to have children because, she wanted to be fully in touch with his needs. They rarely went out in public and when they did people stared at them. I thought wow, that’s a little over the top but hey, if you really want to live that way, why not.
I think I have always sort of been fascinated by these things as a child but, I think that it all got a little more serious the more fed up with the world we live in. For me, I hate today’s society and the way society behaves. I’m tired of constantly hearing overused terms like racism, fighting, war, money problems, someone killed or raped someone, there was yet another robbery and so on. I think that all of us are a little tired of the world today. I’m also tired of seeing trash on the TV and hearing it on the radio. I hate the Miley Cyrus’s (people like her) and the Kardashian’s, to see that sex sells and values/morals mean nothing. That you can’t trust anyone anymore, that people are only out for their selves and don’t care what happens to you.
We’re all kind of slaves now to the internet, social media, celebrities, cell phones and all things modern. We are after all the generation of looking down and the generation of “likes” and retweets. We have all just kind of given up on enjoying life and only associating ourselves with how many online friends we have and whether people like our statuses or not. Even teenagers today are killing themselves over someone making comments on the internet. That sort of thing didn’t exist in the past, people valued their lives and didn’t think as highly of someone who didn’t like them. Wouldn’t it be nice to just escape all of these things, even for just a day?
I hope you have enjoyed this blog and please tell me in the comments below, what you would like to do if you could go back in time.
When is enough, enough? When do life’s challenges become so overwhelming that you know something has to change? Well, let’s talk about it.
I’m the type of person who’s had a lot of bad things happen to me over the course of my young life and I have handled it all pretty well up until now. I don’t care to go into great detail but I’ll say this, I’ve seen, heard and dealt with way more than I should have and I’ve grown tired of the same problems. Now, many people will judge me and say “Quit making the same mistakes”. I’m not making the same mistakes yet, I’m having similar results.
I have had a lot of problems for a while now and people don’t seem to understand. I’ve always had some complications with family, people who think they are friends and won’t go away, ex’s, newbies, financial, sexual and physical. The list continues to go on and on and I’m the go to person for every single problem known to man and yet, I certainly don’t have that kind of support in return except on WordPress. I have some pretty great followers here who I can very much relate to. I’m nearly up to 70 followers now and it’s amazing. All I do is write about all the BS things in life and yet, people enjoy my stories and my struggles and I really appreciate that.
Over the years, I’ve tried to gain support and appreciation apparently in all the wrong places. I’ve tried getting people to notice my struggles particularly on Facebook and even family continue to go unnoticed when it comes to myself and my feelings. I think that’s why so many blogs are written here.
It’s surprising how much people who are somewhat depressed will look for validation from others. The solution often recommended is medication. There’s a medicine for everything these days yet, there are no real solutions. It’s like here take this pill so that you feel better about your bad situation. That’s not a solution to me or anyone else. Then you have the fake supporters, you know the one’s who don’t really want to deal with you. They are the one’s who say things like “Everyone has problems”. Again, this is superficial and isn’t a solution. There are a lot of people who have a problem every now and again and there’s a lot of people who need to carry an umbrella constantly, there’s always a heavy rain cloud hanging over their heads and nothing ever works out.
For those of you who have something constantly hanging over your head, you’ll completely understand and you’ll be just as frustrated as I am with the superficial people who have no idea what’s going on. Yes, people have problems but, there’s a lot of people that you’ll notice who have superficial problems. The example is “Jane has an engine that won’t start and she requires a new starter for her car”. That’s a temporary problem that doesn’t qualify as “Everyone has problems”.
I think that I’ve always been a person who’s had too many downfalls and I’m incredibly frustrated by it. I’ve always tried to give people the benefit of the doubt and I’ve helped an incredible amount of people. I’m the one people come to when they want money, someone to vent to, someone for support of some kind and so on. When I want something, I have zero support, everyone disappears. Who else has had that problem? (Please comment below)
Why is it that the people who suck the most life out of you, are never around when you’re in need? What is it that makes people be less empathetic towards situations similar to yours? They are so trusting of you to help them but, they are not trusting enough of you to help you and I know, it sounds like a rant but seriously, I’m so burned out at this point with the way things go and the way that good people are treated like crap and bad people are treated like Kings/Queens. So now the question begins, do I continue to be a good person and suffer or do I become the person who refuses to empathize with anyone, not help anyone with money and collect on that happiness? Since I’ve tried being that great person my whole life, I think I’ll try the other side since the good side has never worked. It seems that the world is a fend for yourself kind of world.