I’ve watched many video’s on Teenage pregnancy whether it be home video’s or reality shows. In most of the video’s I see girls from ages 13-17 who are pregnant and usually without the father of their child. We live in a society today where this has become the norm. Young girls who are having sex and becoming pregnant.
One of the most ridiculous stories I saw recently is a young girl who claims that she’s a virgin and that she’s going to give birth to Jesus. Her mother backs up this story because, her mother claims that God came to her in a dream and told her that her daughter was in fact a virgin and that Jesus was going to come back to earth through her daughter. I know many of you will laugh and so did I. I think this has gone on long enough and her mother will find out the real truth when this baby is born.
Aside from that, I often read comments below these video’s calling these young girls “whores”. This makes no sense to me as it doesn’t make any difference whether your 13 or 30, all women get pregnant by a man and you don’t have to sleep around in order to get pregnant. It shouldn’t be automatically assumed that these girls have slept around and that’s what made them pregnant. The stigma that comes with teen pregnancy is horrible and it does nothing to prevent young mothers from getting pregnant.
There have been many outrages over schools handing out birth control, why? If your child feels uncomfortable talking to you, wouldn’t you want her to have protection anonymously? Parents say they don’t want this happening because, it will give their teen the right to have sex. WRONG, it will give your teen the right to have safe sex. Teens are going to have sex, it doesn’t matter if birth control is available or not and the parents who don’t support this idea, who try to scare their teens into not having sex, will be the one’s who end up with a pregnant daughter or their son will get someone pregnant and maybe pass on an STD as well. We can’t be ignorant as parents and assume that our child will never have sex at their age. Teenagers are impulsive as it is and when they get those sexual feelings, chances are they are going to act on them.
I’m not saying that I approve of teens having sex, getting pregnant or any other form of emotional bonds. What I am saying is that we need to concern ourselves with safe sex and a validation that we understand what that teen is feeling and that we were once teens ourself.
There should be a place that teens can go and talk with girls who are already teen moms or guys who are teen dad’s and get a support system where the people around them are not bias. Parents cannot be that rock for those kids as parents are all about NO NO NO and it doesn’t work obviously. Then there are times where the teen must learn from their own mistakes. Regardless of what hopes and dreams you have for your child, your child will have to be the one to decide what future they have and I know you’re saying “This woman is crazy”. No, what I’m saying is that teens will be teens and there’s no amount of guilting, parenting, grounding or anything else you can do as all people express free will and teenagers do this more than adults. I would not want my son getting anyone pregnant but, I’m also not going to be blind to the fact that he probably will get someone pregnant.
The best thing we can do as parents is get ready for any questions that our teen may have and be ready to not overreact when they tell you that they want to have sex or that they have been having sex. Making threats to your child or their partner will only push them away more.
When my now 19 month old son was 17 months, I started noticing signs that seemed off about him. I knew the typical toddler behaviors but my son, was different. I had already known the signs of autism from all of my medical research/background. Yes, he was very different. During the day he seems really focused on tapping things a certain number of times, holding his ears at the slightest noise and getting extremely emotional over seemingly nothing. He also had other odd things such as being focused on only saying a few words, doing the same thing every day and cowering at the thought of talking to people he doesn’t know or being around children.
Having an Autistic child is very difficult and having an Autistic Toddler is extremely exhausting. I can easily say that I was not prepared for this but, I’m doing the best I know how. Thank God for support groups. So anyway, my son is so focused on the few things he’s obsessed with that he doesn’t like anything to change or go wrong in his routine and therefore, we basically work around his schedule.
For example: My son likes to play with the pup’s we have, go outside and play with his rocks and grass (When I say his, I mean that he has chosen pebbles that go every where with him), go to the store, play with all of the playground balls that he has and tap on things.
That may seem like a lot but, with him it’s so limited and he’s so focused on everything that he does, he’s not interested in anything else. Sometimes he even wakes up in the middle of the night to perform his “rituals”. It’s very stressful because well, my husband and I don’t get much sleep and it’s hard for us to change his schedule at all. Now, some people have actually said to me “He’s a kid, you’re the boss, just make him do what you want”. It’s not that way with an Autistic Toddler, it simply doesn’t work because, unlike temper tantrums that most toddler’s have, our son actually has full on mental breakdowns that make it impossible for him to function.
He is also extremely attached to three items of his, a stuffed caterpillar, a blanket with whales on it and his pebble rocks. Those items have to go along with us any where we go.
I think that Autism is very much misunderstood by those who don’t know anyone that has it and everything is difficult with an Autistic child. For instance, even simple tasks such as bathing, changing his pull up, changing clothes, putting him to bed, talking loud (even if we’re not speaking to him), public environments, being around other kids etc. it becomes very intense and very stressful to just do simple things that some people take for granted.
To know that our son may never fully develop and that he may need help the rest of his life is almost devastating. Will he be able to have a family? Will he be able to ever have a career or go to college? We don’t know the answer to that yet and we won’t even be able to guess that until he’s much older. For anyone who has an autistic child, I’m sure you can relate to these things. Whether or not you have an autistic child, please comment on this blog and tell me your thoughts.
Public breastfeeding has now become widespread and now a trend has been started where women are taking pictures of them breastfeeding and posting them all over social media. Although I have no problem with breastfeeding in general, I also don’t want to see it on my news feed. I think that people who do this are trying to seek any type of attention they can get and honestly, they are exploiting their children. Allow me to explain.
When I first started seeing these pictures my initial thought was “What in the world are they doing?!” I couldn’t believe that someone would post a picture of their child feeding from their breast on social media and actually try to defend it by saying things like “It’s natural”, “All women should do this” and of course my first reaction was to say “What’s next?! Showing your baby’s poopy diaper, that’s natural and that’s what happens when the milk digests”. Now some of you may feel that I’m wrong here and I’m sure you will because I have been called an idiot and ignorant on social media.
I feel that this is exploiting children because, the women on there who are trying to prove a point do not take into consideration that pictures are on the internet forever and when that child grows up enough to be on social media, the last thing they want to see is them sucking milk from their mom’s boob. It’s embarrassing just like taking pictures of your kid using the potty for the first time or giving them a bath.
I look at it this way, I don’t want my child to see your boob flopped out any more than I want a man to whip out his penis and pee in public. That’s natural but, I don’t want to see it. There are options to not disrespect other people’s children in public and they won’t look away because they are kids and kids notice everything. When people have suggested that these women use covers or feed their kids breast milk in bottles they fire back and say “My child won’t take a bottle” or the famous one “Why don’t you put a cover over your head while you eat” first off, that doesn’t make any sense, a child should not ever be solely dependent on it’s mother’s nipple alone and I don’t suck on anyone’s boob when I eat, I eat with a spoon and a fork. I believe that both of those common reactions are excuses to “Prove a point”.
If a man cannot “be natural” and pull out his penis and pee in public, a woman should not be allowed to expose herself and flop out her boob. People are arrested for peeing in public, having sex in public or exposing their self in any way in public and I believe that flopping your boob out is also exposing yourself in public and should be punishable by law. There’s no excuse why you need to do that. It’s not natural to do that in public and it will not be accepted. I will not allow my child to see a woman’s breast at his young age. I’m not against breast feeding but, there are other ways to do it and regardless of what the mother says, I think that it needs to be enforced.
Recently, there was a story on a woman who went to a public place called Discovery Place in Charlotte, NC and she was told that she would have to go to the bathroom to breast feed her child. She became angry and went to the news with it and of course attention seeking women praised her for standing up for herself. However, she has no right to take her baby to a public kids play place and flop her boob out in front of all those children and I do feel like the company had a right to say what they said. Though she tried using the excuse that she paid for entry and that they don’t force patrons to eat in the bathroom, it’s an invalid argument. The fact is, children are extremely curious and I don’t want them staring at another woman’s boobs. Children are imitators and they do sometimes try things like that on other children when they see an adult having it done by a baby. That is not natural and I won’t stand for it.
Final Conclusion: If you refuse to cover up and you refuse to feed your child from a bottle, stay at home. I will not have to explain to my child why you have your boob exposed and I will not leave a place that I paid for because you want to cause a mess of drama.