I’m writing an update about my son who has Autism because, I recently read something that made me feel really bad. My son will be turning 2 years old next week and every since he was born, I have been receiving newsletters from babycenter.com about his development. You know, it’s a newsletter they send via email every month that tells you “Your child is now X months old” and it goes on to tell you what your baby should be doing by that point, milestone wise. I recently received a newsletter that said “Your toddler is now 23 months old” and inside the first sentence was “Your child should now be speaking at least 50 words”. I can tell you that it was a true wake up call and it made me feel really bad. I love my son more than anything in the world and I try to not define him by being Autistic but, it really hit home because, my son speaks 7 words and the rest is babble that cannot be understood. He’s learned 1 new word in 4 months.
I have been attacked by people stating that I’m a horrible parent and that I’m obviously not spending enough time with my son and I’m not reading to him or trying to teach him new words. Are you kidding me? I spend countless hours with him using flashcards, educational shows and even educational puzzles that show the picture and the word, letter and number associated with it. For some reason, it’s not registering and I’m doing the best I can so, I feel really bad when people call me out and say I’m neglecting him. I haven’t found very many resources that could help him or me. I don’t live in a populated city, we have less than 2,000 people here and there are no resources in this area. I do take him to an autism center an hour away and even they come to the house sometimes and work with him but, he still isn’t improving and they said he could stay stuck like this forever.
Does anyone else have autistic kids and what did you do? I would like to hear your stories if you could please comment, I need resources!
I’ve watched many video’s on Teenage pregnancy whether it be home video’s or reality shows. In most of the video’s I see girls from ages 13-17 who are pregnant and usually without the father of their child. We live in a society today where this has become the norm. Young girls who are having sex and becoming pregnant.
One of the most ridiculous stories I saw recently is a young girl who claims that she’s a virgin and that she’s going to give birth to Jesus. Her mother backs up this story because, her mother claims that God came to her in a dream and told her that her daughter was in fact a virgin and that Jesus was going to come back to earth through her daughter. I know many of you will laugh and so did I. I think this has gone on long enough and her mother will find out the real truth when this baby is born.
Aside from that, I often read comments below these video’s calling these young girls “whores”. This makes no sense to me as it doesn’t make any difference whether your 13 or 30, all women get pregnant by a man and you don’t have to sleep around in order to get pregnant. It shouldn’t be automatically assumed that these girls have slept around and that’s what made them pregnant. The stigma that comes with teen pregnancy is horrible and it does nothing to prevent young mothers from getting pregnant.
There have been many outrages over schools handing out birth control, why? If your child feels uncomfortable talking to you, wouldn’t you want her to have protection anonymously? Parents say they don’t want this happening because, it will give their teen the right to have sex. WRONG, it will give your teen the right to have safe sex. Teens are going to have sex, it doesn’t matter if birth control is available or not and the parents who don’t support this idea, who try to scare their teens into not having sex, will be the one’s who end up with a pregnant daughter or their son will get someone pregnant and maybe pass on an STD as well. We can’t be ignorant as parents and assume that our child will never have sex at their age. Teenagers are impulsive as it is and when they get those sexual feelings, chances are they are going to act on them.
I’m not saying that I approve of teens having sex, getting pregnant or any other form of emotional bonds. What I am saying is that we need to concern ourselves with safe sex and a validation that we understand what that teen is feeling and that we were once teens ourself.
There should be a place that teens can go and talk with girls who are already teen moms or guys who are teen dad’s and get a support system where the people around them are not bias. Parents cannot be that rock for those kids as parents are all about NO NO NO and it doesn’t work obviously. Then there are times where the teen must learn from their own mistakes. Regardless of what hopes and dreams you have for your child, your child will have to be the one to decide what future they have and I know you’re saying “This woman is crazy”. No, what I’m saying is that teens will be teens and there’s no amount of guilting, parenting, grounding or anything else you can do as all people express free will and teenagers do this more than adults. I would not want my son getting anyone pregnant but, I’m also not going to be blind to the fact that he probably will get someone pregnant.
The best thing we can do as parents is get ready for any questions that our teen may have and be ready to not overreact when they tell you that they want to have sex or that they have been having sex. Making threats to your child or their partner will only push them away more.
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Public breastfeeding has now become widespread and now a trend has been started where women are taking pictures of them breastfeeding and posting them all over social media. Although I have no problem with breastfeeding in general, I also don’t want to see it on my news feed. I think that people who do this are trying to seek any type of attention they can get and honestly, they are exploiting their children. Allow me to explain.
When I first started seeing these pictures my initial thought was “What in the world are they doing?!” I couldn’t believe that someone would post a picture of their child feeding from their breast on social media and actually try to defend it by saying things like “It’s natural”, “All women should do this” and of course my first reaction was to say “What’s next?! Showing your baby’s poopy diaper, that’s natural and that’s what happens when the milk digests”. Now some of you may feel that I’m wrong here and I’m sure you will because I have been called an idiot and ignorant on social media.
I feel that this is exploiting children because, the women on there who are trying to prove a point do not take into consideration that pictures are on the internet forever and when that child grows up enough to be on social media, the last thing they want to see is them sucking milk from their mom’s boob. It’s embarrassing just like taking pictures of your kid using the potty for the first time or giving them a bath.
I look at it this way, I don’t want my child to see your boob flopped out any more than I want a man to whip out his penis and pee in public. That’s natural but, I don’t want to see it. There are options to not disrespect other people’s children in public and they won’t look away because they are kids and kids notice everything. When people have suggested that these women use covers or feed their kids breast milk in bottles they fire back and say “My child won’t take a bottle” or the famous one “Why don’t you put a cover over your head while you eat” first off, that doesn’t make any sense, a child should not ever be solely dependent on it’s mother’s nipple alone and I don’t suck on anyone’s boob when I eat, I eat with a spoon and a fork. I believe that both of those common reactions are excuses to “Prove a point”.
If a man cannot “be natural” and pull out his penis and pee in public, a woman should not be allowed to expose herself and flop out her boob. People are arrested for peeing in public, having sex in public or exposing their self in any way in public and I believe that flopping your boob out is also exposing yourself in public and should be punishable by law. There’s no excuse why you need to do that. It’s not natural to do that in public and it will not be accepted. I will not allow my child to see a woman’s breast at his young age. I’m not against breast feeding but, there are other ways to do it and regardless of what the mother says, I think that it needs to be enforced.
Recently, there was a story on a woman who went to a public place called Discovery Place in Charlotte, NC and she was told that she would have to go to the bathroom to breast feed her child. She became angry and went to the news with it and of course attention seeking women praised her for standing up for herself. However, she has no right to take her baby to a public kids play place and flop her boob out in front of all those children and I do feel like the company had a right to say what they said. Though she tried using the excuse that she paid for entry and that they don’t force patrons to eat in the bathroom, it’s an invalid argument. The fact is, children are extremely curious and I don’t want them staring at another woman’s boobs. Children are imitators and they do sometimes try things like that on other children when they see an adult having it done by a baby. That is not natural and I won’t stand for it.
Final Conclusion: If you refuse to cover up and you refuse to feed your child from a bottle, stay at home. I will not have to explain to my child why you have your boob exposed and I will not leave a place that I paid for because you want to cause a mess of drama.