I’m writing an update about my son who has Autism because, I recently read something that made me feel really bad. My son will be turning 2 years old next week and every since he was born, I have been receiving newsletters from babycenter.com about his development. You know, it’s a newsletter they send via email every month that tells you “Your child is now X months old” and it goes on to tell you what your baby should be doing by that point, milestone wise. I recently received a newsletter that said “Your toddler is now 23 months old” and inside the first sentence was “Your child should now be speaking at least 50 words”. I can tell you that it was a true wake up call and it made me feel really bad. I love my son more than anything in the world and I try to not define him by being Autistic but, it really hit home because, my son speaks 7 words and the rest is babble that cannot be understood. He’s learned 1 new word in 4 months.
I have been attacked by people stating that I’m a horrible parent and that I’m obviously not spending enough time with my son and I’m not reading to him or trying to teach him new words. Are you kidding me? I spend countless hours with him using flashcards, educational shows and even educational puzzles that show the picture and the word, letter and number associated with it. For some reason, it’s not registering and I’m doing the best I can so, I feel really bad when people call me out and say I’m neglecting him. I haven’t found very many resources that could help him or me. I don’t live in a populated city, we have less than 2,000 people here and there are no resources in this area. I do take him to an autism center an hour away and even they come to the house sometimes and work with him but, he still isn’t improving and they said he could stay stuck like this forever.
Does anyone else have autistic kids and what did you do? I would like to hear your stories if you could please comment, I need resources!
Some people are dog lovers and others are cat lovers. No matter what kind of pet you choose, many of them need lots of attention and be prepared for the expenses. I’m not a dog person so, I’ll be focusing on my life with cats.
I’ve had many cats in my lifetime of all different ages, some strays and some rescues. I will tell you one thing, they are all different. I have 2 cats currently, 1 is 15 years old and the other is 1 year old. There are major differences between the 2. My 15 year old cat is blind in both eyes, he doesn’t like to play or be outside. He doesn’t eat much and he drools a lot.
My 1 year is old is a handful. He loves sleeping during the day and going absolutely crazy at night time. He’s constantly demanding food and to go outside. If he doesn’t get to go outside at night time, he runs all over the bedroom knocking things over, playing in the litterbox, sliding random toys across the floor, running into the door, jumping over trashcans and pillows, in and off the bed and well you get the picture. He’s absolutely obnoxious.
A lot of people think that kittens are cute. You won’t feel that way when you’re killing your wallet buying milk and listening to them meow 24/7. Then those kittens turn into rambunctious terror furballs who get into everything and keep you up all night. Don’t count on getting a break until they are senior cats. It will absolutely drive you insane to have to deal with a cat. Cats love getting into trashcans and jumping up on counters. The only way to train a cat to not do that, is to spray them in the face with water, you must be consistent or they won’t learn. Some people might say “That’s abusive”, no it’s not abusive, it’s the only way to keep them from tearing your house apart. You’re not hurting them, you’re training them. To abuse an animal would be anything that would alter their state physically for life or cause their death.
If you think you can handle all of these things, by all means get a cat. Oh and I almost forgot to mention, 1 year old cats love to hide behind anything bigger than them, then when you walk by, prepare to be pounced on. Good luck with your new cats, you’re going to need it.
I will rate Sears Credit Cards as a 0/10. After being a member since 1995, I inquired about having my interest rates lowered, as they are the same super high interest rate as they have been since I was a new member. I explained to them that it’s not fair to be forced to pay super high interest rates after 20 years. I spoke to 2 customer service representatives and 2 managers. They were very snotty with me and told me flat out “We will not change your interest rates, not now nor ever”. So I said “Fine, you’re going out of business soon anyway, I’ll just close down the card as I have no interest in working with someone who’s so rude and unwilling to appreciate a 20 year customer”. They could have cared less and stated “Well, we’re not going out of business and if that’s what you want to do, go ahead”. So, I cancelled. I have a Discover card that I’ve had for about 10 years, they very much appreciate my business and went out of their way to give me all kinds of cool deals including taking away all of my interest and giving me 10% cash back on most everything. I made it a point to tell Sears that they are losing their business to Discover and that, I will be sure to spread the word about their lack of care towards their customers. They didn’t believe me, now they will find out. I hope many of you will reblog this to prove that I’m not playing games with companies who don’t care. I have never missed a payment on my cards and I will not be treated like garbage. So if you’re considering shopping at Sears or getting credit, don’t.
If you’ve never been on the west coast, you won’t know what this is. It’s a very popular, cheap burger place that’s all over California.
The first time I tried In-N-Out, I got a Cheeseburger and Animal Style Fries (it has bacon bits, cheese and thousand island sauce). They also make a regular burger which you can stack all the way to a 5X5, they have an Animal Style burger and a protein burger (no bun, lettuce is the wrapping).
I’m honestly not sure what the craze is about this place. I have been several different times all over Southern California and I can tell you one thing, it’s getting worse as time goes along. The burgers are extremely dry, even with condiments and they are either under cooked (pink in the middle) or overcooked.The fries by their self are absolutely horrible! I can’t even imagine they are made with real potatoes, they honestly taste like imitation fries. You can seriously buy frozen fries in the grocery store that taste better than their fries.
Animal style fries on their own: Horrible! The cheese that’s on them is nuked government sliced cheese. The bacon bits are cheapy, soft imitation bacon bits. Sound appealing yet? The fries also come with grilled onions, if you like slimy, these are for you.
The milkshakes: I hope you’re not lactose intolerant, they use the strongest whole milk they can find, the ice-cream in the shakes have zero sugar. It’s basically like drinking curdled milk.
So, as you can see this place gets a 0/10 stars from me. I would never, ever consider eating there again even if they paid me to do so. The picture will fool you, there’s nothing tasty about their food and that is not a representation of what you actually get.
I wanted to write about people who leave home, whether you’re 35 or 16, there is a struggle about leaving home. The difference between a 16 year old leaving home and a 35 year old leaving home is that you feel differently.
There’s a real struggle concerning leaving home because, you wonder whether or not you’re making the right decision and how hard things will be when you do leave home. I know that for most people, they are excited when they’re at a point where they can move out and are looking forward to making their own decisions but, that will change as time goes along and you’ll begin to look back starting from childhood into adulthood wondering how it went so fast. As you start having kids of your own, you’ll almost wish that you could do those things again like going to the fair and getting on the kiddy rides or going on vacations with your parents. Yes, you can do those things with your own kids but, it’s different.
I believe that when you’re really young, you’re so focused on getting out and living by your own decisions and rules, that you don’t think about how it will change your life. If you have lived with your parents much longer than most, you tend to have trouble leaving home because, all of that rush to get out has passed and you’re much more mature. A lot of people have an attachment to their parents regardless of age. However, there are those who had horrible childhoods and never want to see their parents again.
Ok, so you’re out on your own, along with your following your own rules, the bills start coming in. For those who are married or in a relationship where the person lives with you, you’re now stuck trying to figure out not only how to run a household but, you have to also pay bills that will not stop coming in and then when you add children into the mix, it gets even more complicated and before you know it, home isn’t looking so bad. I personally don’t miss home but, I do miss being a kid in one way and in another way, I feel good that I can pay my own bills and I don’t have someone controlling everything I do nor do I have someone holding over my head that they pay the bills.
As our parents age, we begin to worry about them and how to best care for them. That’s when things get really complicated and on top of your already stressful life, you know are in the circle of life and having to take care of your parents when they can no longer do so. It’s a never ending cycle but one thing is for sure, we’ll always miss home in one way or another.
Well, the dreaded mother in law is back. I want to say first off that I did not want her back in our home and I’m really angry that I basically was forced to let her come back here. She came here earlier this week and hasn’t left yet because we haven’t been able to drive her the 2 hours back to her house. Anyway, she was here all of one day before she started in again about we had to take her to kingdom hall and my husband was at work, we only have one car so it wasn’t going to happen so, she says “I’m going to walk” and I laughed because it’s 2 miles from our home, she can barely walk through the house muchless 2 miles away. She tells me that she must walk because she “has to put in hours for Jehovah”. Oh my God, so anyway, she takes off walking and she’s gone 3 minutes and comes back and says “It’s too hot, I can’t do it, so now what am I supposed to do”. I have no idea what she’s supposed to do, I’m without a car when my husband’s at work.
So then Wednesday night comes around and she’s like “I need you to take me to kingdom hall tomorrow night” and my husband says to her “I told you that we’re not involved with those people and we’re not going to drive you to kingdom hall, you need to call over there and have someone from the organization give you a ride” well that just set her off and she wanted to leave, which by the way, she’s always threatening to do. So she ends up calling and talking to I guess an Elder who tells her that they will have someone pick her up and they will call her when they are on their way. Ok, so she doesn’t hear anything by mid day yesterday and so again she starts in about us taking her to kingdom hall, we’re not going to take her and we reminded her of that again. So finally, she gets in touch with someone who comes to pick her up and she leaves. We always know that when she goes to the meetings, she comes back with a vengeance. I have no idea what they are teaching her about “worldly people” but whatever it is, it’s causing her to come back filled with hate.
So last night I ended up talking to my husband about things going on here and what I needed from him. We ended up raising our voices a little but we were still in the privacy of our bedroom. Well, I hear her slamming doors, boxes and throwing a bunch of stuff in boxes and bags. Her room wall is shared with my son’s room wall and it’s 3:30 in the morning and I’m pissed off because she’s making a bunch of noise pitching a temper tantrum. So I tell my husband, “You need to go in there and tell her to stop her bullshit or she can go walking back home”. He gets up and goes in there and she’s got her head spinning in a 360 degree spin, she’s still slamming boxes and yelling about how much she hates me and she’s leaving and this and that. My husband said “I don’t give a damn what you’re mad about but you’re not going to wake up the baby”. So he walks away and she’s still fuming and she slams one more box and then finally stops.
I told my husband that I’m not going to deal with this and that she shouldn’t have been here to begin with and she needs to return home but, we’re not taking her. I have plans for today and I have plans this weekend and neither includes driving her 2 hours back to her house. I’m actually rather annoyed with this attitude and idea that she’s actually going somewhere when she gets mad. We don’t have money to be making those kind of trips, she doesn’t have a car or anyone who lives anywhere near our house and there’s no bus line. I know that she’ll be on the phone with her other son soon enough expecting him to drive all the way out here and because he’s such a mama’s boy, I’m sure he’ll do it.
Most importantly, I don’t care what she thinks about me at all and I don’t need her help or support. All I’m concerned about is how my son feels. He’s almost 2 years old and she’s just emotionally damaging him by walking in and out of his life. My son already doesn’t have his grandpa in his life because he was nuts and acts crazy and does stupid things just like she does. I don’t need this kind of dysfunction and stress in his life or mine. I could honestly care less that she hates me. As long as he’s not hurt by it then I don’t care. I know that with his Autism and him being a toddler right now, he can’t possibly understand what’s going on so this has to be hard on him. I’m at the end of my rope and I think it’s honestly worse that she’s here than if she’s gone. I just know that I can’t take this anymore.
I decided to write about this because there are obviously some people who are still falling for these email scams. There’s a couple of things that people need to know about the scams from Nigeria and cat-fishers in general.
Emails claiming to be from someone in need of help, lottery winnings or receiving inheritances are ALWAYS scams
These scams almost always generate from Nigeria
If you don’t accept the scam they send you by email, you’ll find them trying to pretend to be someone who wants to be in a relationship with you.
No matter what the story, you’ll never receive any money from the scammers.
Scams like these have been going on for many years. I can remember seeing the 1st email back in 2001. Even then, I always deleted it or put it in the spam folder as most people would because, some of us are just smart enough to know that emails like that can’t be true. There are other types of scams where you might meet someone on a dating website, who happens to be from Nigeria but steals pictures from an American girl’s website and uses fake information. They will then have you sending money via Western Union and will give you a phone number to call them on, but they are likely never home. Here’s some questions you may want to ask yourself before sending money.
Why would I be getting an inheritance from someone in Nigeria when, I don’t know anyone who’s ever lived there?
How would someone like this get my email address?
Why would I need to send them money in order to receive a large sum of money?
Why would I help someone who’s in a sticky situation that I don’t know?
Why would I send a woman money who will only talk to me on the internet?
Shouldn’t I research the names they are giving me before sending money?
Those are all very important and especially researching names that they give you or pictures that they show you of their self. Seriously, you can find everything you need on Google. You don’t need to research the inheritance part because you already know it’s a scam, it’s always a scam and you won’t be an exception. The story about “I’m stuck in Nigeria and I need help”, that’s a scam! I hope this helps so many people because you need to know before, sending your hard earned money to scumbags.