So as many of you know, I often rant about my mother in law and I fully intend to rant again because I’m completely 100% fed up! Here’s what happened: The past few days my mother in law has been driving me insane and as you all know she’s constantly knit-picking about me, my husband and what we do with our lives. I’ve had enough and I finally decided it would be a good time to take her home. She tells me Thursday night that she wants me to take her 2 hours away to her house because she wants to go to a JW assembly. Great! This is my chance to get her out of my house for a while. So, we wake up on Friday morning and go to take her and she wants to do a bunch of other things first. When we get close to her house she springs it on me “I just want to pick up my mail and then I want you to take me to my son’s house” which is my brother in law and is an hour from her house. OMG I’m already tired. So, we take her over there and the first thing she does when she walks in is start ranting about my brother in law’s Christmas tree and Christmas wreath. We stay for a very short while and tell him it’s his problem now and we left.
She has been riding us for weeks to get her out of the house before we celebrate “Satan’s holiday”. Which excuse me but, I thought people referred to Halloween as Satan’s holiday. Anyway, we knew that we had to get her out of here because I’m not ruining my son’s Christmas because she can’t control herself. Backing up a little, when we were almost at her house yesterday, she started talking about the JW’s and the bible. Well that’s always a hot topic and it starts fights. I try to avoid it but she likes to push it, so fine. The first thing that’s brought up is there not being a hell and she believes that the hell is actually the grave and that you feel nothing and see nothing. When I brought up the story of the rich man who was in torment (after his death) and called out to Abraham for a drop of water to be put on his tongue, she got quiet. It proves that the soul is not the body, that people do go to hell and that he was able to see, hear and know what was going on.
Then she brought up the 144,000 and I told her that no one of the 144,000 is still living today because of words used such as “were, saw, named” in the verse that says And 144,000 WERE sealed and they WERE the 12 tribes of Israel. (it already happened). So she got steaming mad at this point.
Then she brought up Jesus “not” dying on a cross. I said that’s not true either, Jesus did die on a cross because in the bible it clearly states that above Jesus’s head was a sign that read This is Jesus, The King of Jews. I said to her “If Jesus had his hands above his head, why does the bible say he has a sign above his head? Wouldn’t it then be that Jesus actually had his hands above the sign? She got mad at that too because she knew she was wrong.
I also explained to her that a man by the name of Johannes Greber translated multiple watchtowers and several books. That Johannes Greber and his wife were both spirit mediums and he stated that he got the information for their translations from demons. Then we went into the subject that several of the Jehovah’s Witness founders/leaders lied claiming that they knew Greek and Hebrew and in fact they did not know and admitted in court that they lied. They have never had any basis for their translations.
Then she wanted to drag up baptism, fine! Let’s bring it up! In the bible (yes even the NWT) it clearly states that you MUST be baptized in the name of the Father, Son and Holy Ghost. However, they completely ignore that and say that you must be baptized in the organization.
The intentional twisting of scripture, the false prophecies (There were far too many to count but, in the bible it says that those who make prophecies in God’s name that do not come true are NOT of God), the use of Spirit Mediums as translators, The fact that Charles Russell (The founder) was an alcoholic, adulterer and psychotic and the intentional leaving out of scriptures is the reason that I don’t have a use for talking about or dealing with her and her group of buddies. I also told her that I did not appreciate her leaving her watchtower magazines laying all over the place with violent pictures on the front cover of Christian’s being destroyed by God while the JW’s stood over them smiling. I just can’t have this going on in my house and I finally had enough and dumped her off on my brother in law. I’m sorry to all the JW’s out there who probably hate me right now but seriously, when you combine her mental illness with her “truth” which can be easily disputed, it gets to be too much particularly since I’m far too busy with my son who has Autism to be dealing with an adult who gets mad at the slightest breath.
FINAL STATEMENT: If you don’t know your religions history, you have already begun the process of having the wool pulled over your eyes. If the Jehovah’s Witnesses weren’t worried about their history, they wouldn’t command you to not go searching for information on the internet. For those of you who might be confused or curious or just simply stubborn, I posted plenty of resources for you to get proper information.
Lately all we see is news of the Duggar family on Facebook. Someone who has no life has decided to watch the Duggar kid’s twitter page 24/7 to report everything they do. On top of that, there are many people who absolutely despise the Duggar’s. They have no problem voicing their opinion and calling them names like “Ignorant, Irresponsible, Rabbits, Litter”.
I have a personal opinion concerning the Duggar Family. I believe that they are sincere in their beliefs, they are a loving family with good morals and values, they are definitely frugal on how to raise kids on a tight budget and their children are well mannered and very talented. I would always rather see those kinds of kids being brought up in this world, than to see more kids that are in jail, shooting up schools, bullying other kids and playing stupid games like the knockout game. I would also rather have the world populated with Duggar’s than to see trash like Miley Cyrus and The Kardashians who can only show off their bodies and be whores.
People bash the Duggar’s primarily for how many kids they have and I always ask the same question “Why do you care? They are not on welfare and you’re not paying for them”. Now the bashing is because the LGBT failed to get their show cancelled. Of course they failed! If a group doesn’t like a show, don’t watch it! You don’t intentionally watch something, stalk their pages and then have a petition made so you can have them removed. It’s a battle that was never going to be won. Then I have heard ridiculous things from commenters like “One of their kids has to be gay, you can’t have that many kids and they not turn out gay”. That’s the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard! People are not born gay regardless of what you think and there have been many people who used to have 12, 15 or more kids and none of them turned out gay. Just because they have 19 kids and just because there are “studies” out there doesn’t mean any of the children will be gay.
Then there’s the comments about how many children their children will have. So what? Again, I would rather there be a whole clan of well mannered, respectful, ambitious kids in the world than the kids that are out there today. The Duggar’s are slowly changing the way the world is right now and if all parents would follow their lead, there wouldn’t be people in prison and kids committing suicide. I mean come on, when I was growing up there was no such thing as kids killing their self and no offense to anyone who’s had a child that did that but, something is wrong here if this is what’s happening to today’s kids.
I’m sure that many of you will have comments for this blog, feel free to leave your comments without insulting me. Insults will be deleted.
I have been thinking back about all of the people I used to be friends with and why I was friends with them. As time passes by most people end friendships and start new one’s. That’s the cycle of life for almost everyone. Sure there are a few friends that you keep throughout your lifetime or at least for many years. Most people though, are here for a season and that’s it. What do we learn from those people? Well a lot of times we learn the warning signs of what a bad friend is and how to avoid getting one in the future. Sometimes we learn how to dig deep inside and find those emotions that were once there but became lost.
I had a few friends that I thought were going to be friends for life. It turns out, they weren’t real friends at all as some betrayed me and others just moved on and lost interest. Those that betrayed me did so behind my back and i didn’t find out until much later. I have other friends that I’ve had for a long time who I still talk to but live far away from. It’s not really a bad thing because I’m learning about friends even now and it helps me to form new friendships and dump old friendships that have lost their character.
I think at some point all of us wonder why we were friends with someone that we cared about or hung out with. As we mature, things change and we begin to realize that those people no longer fit our lifestyle. For instance, people who you just hang with or party with, won’t be friends for life because as you mature and lose interest in those things, you lose interest in the people who weren’t really friends, they were just someone fun to be around. Then there are those who end up getting married and having children and are focused on their new family life and less interested in their social life.
The one or two great friends that you keep can be very understanding of your new life as they probably have the same one. They understand that you can’t always talk on the phone, text or hang out because they have kids too. Still, when you’re able to talk to that friend you realize that nothing has changed between you and it’s actually refreshing to talk to another adult for a change, besides your spouse. Everyone needs someone other than their spouse to talk to, otherwise things can get pretty frustrating.
i don’t think that people should ever be friends with their ex’s regardless of how the relationship ended. i think that it’s crossing boundaries because they will always know your business and always be comparing the life you had with them, with the life you have with your new spouse. They will always be stalking your Facebook page or making snide remarks. It’s just a bad mix all together.
Feel free to comment on my blog and tell me your experiences.
Recently, I got a cat that’s an adult from a married couple who could no longer keep him. We had to drive quite a ways to pick him up and he had never been in a car before. We realized trying to bring him home that it was going to be a tough ride because he was not at all happy about being in a car. Finally about 30 minutes into the ride he started settling down. He lived in a very small apartment and was allowed to be outside roaming the parking lot any time he wanted to. He had never had any immunizations, seen a vet or been neutered. We brought him home to a house nearly 5 times bigger than the apartment he lived in and the first thing he did was run and hide behind the couch. I had known that he probably would do that because I have had cats before. We finally managed to get him out from behind the couch, I put a soft fleece blanket over an extra pillow that we have and laid it on the floor. He wanted nothing to do with the pillow and decided to sleep on our bed the entire night. The next day he laid around the entire day and decided to lay in a torn up trash bag in our closet with only his head sticking out. We left him alone assuming that he would come out eventually. Later that night he began meowing at the door and scratching at the door. He wanted to go outside just like he was used to doing and of course we couldn’t just let him out because he doesn’t know how to find his way home and we don’t have any tags for him yet or even a collar.
So the next day, we took him outside in our backyard which has a large wooden fence all the way around and we watched him carefully. At one point he ran under my legs and jumped all the way on top of the fence and was getting ready to jump over it when I grabbed him. We knew that we couldn’t just let him outside. Most of the time he just lays around or stares out the window but, sometimes he comes around being all annoying and wanting constant attention which I can’t give him constant attention because I have a toddler in the house who has autism and he needs much more attention. I would imagine that some of you will judge me and say that I shouldn’t have gotten a cat to begin with but, I really wanted my son to have a small animal that he could grow up with and maybe even help some of his autism characteristics and I have heard that cats can be very loving and gentle with kids and people who are sad.
Tonight has been the most unusual night of them all. He got up on our bed and squatted over my husbands blanket, was trembling very badly and jumped off the bed and he left behind a small wet spot that didn’t seem like urine. So now I find out that he’s “in heat” and I know male cats don’t go in heat but you know what I’m saying. So now we need to take him and get his shots and get him neutered. He’s also been jumping up on the toilet in our bathroom and jumping up on the tiny windowsill in our bathroom and falling to the floor. I’m not sure if he actually knows there’s a female cat outside or if he’s just hoping there is. Either way, I probably should have looked for a cat that’s already been neutered rather than just asking for any cat.
If you have cats, especially rescued cats you will probably understand all of these frustrations that we’re having right now adjusting to life with a new cat. If you don’t have cats but you’re considering getting one, get one that’s neutered or spayed already.
I decided to write a blog on my personal feelings of the military and I know that for some of you this will be a touchy subject and will probably make many of you angry but, allow me to explain.
I’ve never been one to associate with the military as I wasn’t raised up in it or exposed to it in any way. I didn’t have any real strong feelings about soldiers until recently and now I have enough in my mind to write this blog. A few months ago, I was sitting in my car at a convenience store and I saw a man and woman walk through the parking lot and both of them had their uniform on. i’m assuming Army based on the color of the uniform. As they were slowly walking by, the woman turned to the man and said “Watch this, when we walk in we will get automatic respect, I love wearing my uniform out in public because people are always thanking me for my service and giving me discounts”. I became very angry about this and I thought “Wow, so you walk around in your uniform just to get people to bow down to you and to give you nearly free items”. I don’t know how many of you would have felt hearing that but for me, it was so shallow and made me feel like they just were looking for attention.
My opinion the military is this: I feel that wars are no longer about protecting our country and I do not feel that soldiers are fighting for our freedom and here’s why, President Bush would often get on National Television and make threats to the Middle East. He would have selfish motives that was putting our country in danger to begin with and by picking a fight with people who have nothing to lose, was just asking for our country to be attacked. After viewing a lot of footage concerning 9/11 it became clear that it was not the work of terrorists at all, as a matter of fact the facts that were given stated it was one type of plane when in fact, it was a different type of plane and I along with many others, feel like this was something that was planned by our own government. No, I’m not paranoid and no I’m not one to follow many conspiracy theories but, looking at facts alone, it’s clear that it was not a terrorist attack. You may do the research yourself and you will find out the exact same thing as I did.
President Obama has followed in the footsteps of Bush and has made several announcements on TV of attacking the Middle East and sending the military out to do what he and Bush are too afraid to do themselves. So often these family members of the soldiers are left alone for months or even a year or more to fend for their self while their husband or wife is gone away at war. Have you noticed that we don’t actually have freedom and especially not nearly as much as we did before these Middle East conflicts started? As a matter of fact, our freedoms are being taken from us every day. Now we have a government who insists on even taking our freedom of religion away from us and freedom of speech is completely out of the question or a person can be imprisoned. The only reason anyone would have to protect our country now is because our president’s have pissed off people in the Middle East and now they are taking it out the American people as if we have some responsibility in our president’s poor decisions.
When many war veterans are no longer of use to the Military, often times they come back and are forgotten and left homeless, broke and with PTSD. The government doesn’t care, the president doesn’t care and many people in the United States won’t lift a finger to help. So knowing all of these things, why would you support the Military and the Troops? Why should anyone put their self in a position to do the dirty work of the President just to come back broken and broke? I especially, will not give automatic respect to someone who voluntarily signed up for this and are simply doing a job just like everyone else in the working world, especially to people like the one’s I saw at the store who use their uniform in a disgraceful manner to get freebies and thank you’s. Many of you may hate me after this blog but seriously, I feel that I should be able to reserve the right to tell it like I see it and if you think about it, it honestly makes sense.
Adding to this blog: My grandfather was in the Korean War, he was in the army and when he came back he started drinking very heavily and he was very intimidated by various different noises and people. He became an angry person that no one recognized and he would tell stories of the horrors. He did not sign up for the military, he was drafted. He said that being in the military was something that was common then and that people were told they were fighting for one thing, when much like today, it’s for selfish reasons. I guess you could say that his being in the military basically killed him, since he was never the same again after returning home and basically lived his life in a never ending nightmare. He said that it was just like having a standard job except much longer hours and that you just became numb to killing people. I’m sorry but, I cant see how a life like that would benefit anyone.
My husband was diagnosed with Schizoaffective 2 years ago and at first we were wondering what could be done for him. They put him on every medication they could and nothing helped. Finally, they put him on Xanax that was for “Emergency use only” and basically if he would have a manic fit in public or at home, he would take a Xanax to relieve the symptoms temporarily. That worked for a long time but now, he’s not taking the medication anymore because it’s not helping him and he doesn’t want to go any higher on the dose because he’s afraid he’ll be taking too much and on top of that more than one pill makes him sleepy.
I have noticed that over the past year my husband has been declining in his mental health. He sleeps a lot and gets sidetracked all of the time. He spends a lot more time doing useless things like spending too much time on Facebook, Twitter and Sports websites. He doesn’t spend much time with us anymore and he’s become very animated where he sings random songs when no music is playing and he talks randomly on and on about nothing. He definitely doesn’t help much around the house and when he does it’s because I’ve literally bitched at him until he does it. He’s become a lot more argumentative about everything and does not handle constructive criticism at all. Anytime that I bring to his attention that he’s acting out, he says that I’m making it up, basically lying about it. Afterall, he doesn’t see things for what they really are.
He has a lot of OCD’s including being afraid of ants and seeing germs that they “leave behind”, washing his hands a lot and compulsively checking Facebook. For a long time he would become extremely upset if our son got dirty or made any messes because he expected him to know that messes are “dirty” and “Germey” lucky for us, he has since lightened up on that part and he’s no longer bothered by it.
There’s so much more I could write but, I would be here all night. All I can say is that living with a Schizo is one of the hardest things you’ll have to endure. It’s so difficult to see what they see and live in their world even for a minute. I’m hoping that at some point, things will turn around and he’ll be able to function again normally.
If any of you have similar circumstances or know more about this condition, please comment below. Thanks!
The one thing that no one wants to talk about is death. For so many people it’s a scary thought especially when you’re young and healthy or somewhat healthy. However, when I was 18, I started thinking about what I would want when I die even though I had no plans of dying any time soon. I have had people say that it’s morbid and makes me seem like I have an obsession with death. Actually, it’s the opposite. I’m afraid of death just as much as the next person.
I found that despite what people want to believe, there are many people who die very young and it’s left up to the family as to what they may have wanted. I personally don’t want that. If something were to ever happen to me, I want the ability to make decisions for myself and I found the best way to do that is to have an Advance Directive in place. An Advance Directive is a way for you to write down exactly what you want, have 2 witnesses sign it, get it notarized if you desire to and give copies to your doctors, your local hospital and family or friends.
I found that the easiest form to fill out was a form called Five Wishes and it’s free to anyone who wants a copy mailed to them. There’s many different questions inside the Five Wishes and you simply write your answer to the questions below and then write anything else you would like. Some of the most important questions they ask you are things like Do you want life support? Do you want Artificial Nutrition? What music would you like played at your funeral? Things like that. It gives a clear cut and legal way for you to speak for yourself through your handwriting when you cannot speak for yourself verbally.
Now, I’m sure that so many of you will wonder why I would write a blog like this but honestly, I think it’s important to talk to people about what their options are and how to go about it without the expense of going through a lawyer or having to go to court and get a judge to sign your document. There are so many things going on in this world right now and so many people who are involved in innocent deaths and some who choose to end their lives. No matter what happens, be prepared. You can obtain a copy of Five Wishes here: http://www.amedisys.com/patients-and-caregivers/health-resources/advanced-directives